chapter 4
Here's the opening quote for thought:
In dark ages people are best guided by religion, as in a pitch-black night a blind man is the best guide; he knows the roads and paths better than a man who can see. When daylight comes, however, it is foolish to use blind old men as guides.
~Heinrich Heine, Gedanken und Einfalle
Showing posts with label Stephen R. Covey. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Stephen R. Covey. Show all posts
Saturday, December 5, 2009
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
the 7 habits of highly effective people - last entry
I wanted to comment on the last two habits...in case I left any of my readers in suspense. That was a joke because I don't have any readers!
Habit 6: Synergize
The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Remember this is under the "Interdependent" section. Covey talks about synergy in communication, the classroom and business.
Love this quote: "We seek not to imitate the masters, rather we seek what they sought."
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
This is the most important habit. It is about "preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have - YOU!" So many excuses as to why we ignore our own health.
I try to relay this message to people I care about, but they don't seem to listen. Let's try it in Covey's words:
"This is the single most important investment we can make in life - in ourselves, in the only instrument we have with which to deal with life and to contribute. We are the instruments of our own performance, and to be effective, we need to recognize the importance of taking time regularly to sharpen the saw in physical, mental, spiritual and social/emotional ways."
There is much substance to this book that I feel like I need to re-read it now that I have given it a once over. But will give it a rest and pass it on to someone else...just for a little while as this is a keeper!
Well, that's it for the 7 habits. I won't forget you! And promise to revisit you regularly throughout my life. Thank you for reconfirming what "to live", "productive" and "meaningful" means.
Habit 6: Synergize
The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Remember this is under the "Interdependent" section. Covey talks about synergy in communication, the classroom and business.
Love this quote: "We seek not to imitate the masters, rather we seek what they sought."
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
This is the most important habit. It is about "preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have - YOU!" So many excuses as to why we ignore our own health.
I try to relay this message to people I care about, but they don't seem to listen. Let's try it in Covey's words:
"This is the single most important investment we can make in life - in ourselves, in the only instrument we have with which to deal with life and to contribute. We are the instruments of our own performance, and to be effective, we need to recognize the importance of taking time regularly to sharpen the saw in physical, mental, spiritual and social/emotional ways."
There is much substance to this book that I feel like I need to re-read it now that I have given it a once over. But will give it a rest and pass it on to someone else...just for a little while as this is a keeper!
Well, that's it for the 7 habits. I won't forget you! And promise to revisit you regularly throughout my life. Thank you for reconfirming what "to live", "productive" and "meaningful" means.
Book 3 Complete: the 7 habits of highly effective people
So I finished the 7 Habits last night. It was really good. Very powerful. Lasting effects. It is one of those books that you keep for a life time and refer to every now and then to keep you on your toes!! IF YOU BUY INTO THIS WAY OF LIFE.
For me, it is also about hope. Hope for individuals and the world.
Here's a quote from my sister, "yeah if you apply it to your life, useless if you don't...".
She is right. But even awareness of this way of living may plant a seed of a different tree.
For me, it is also about hope. Hope for individuals and the world.
Here's a quote from my sister, "yeah if you apply it to your life, useless if you don't...".
She is right. But even awareness of this way of living may plant a seed of a different tree.
Sunday, November 22, 2009
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 14
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand then to be Understood
Wow! This section of listening is enlightening. It sheds new light on past situations and offers a key to unravelling an individual.
How often do you feel as though you are battling with someone although you are both wanting the same outcome?
Without trust, we may feel and think one thing, but communicate something else. Hah!
Wow! This section of listening is enlightening. It sheds new light on past situations and offers a key to unravelling an individual.
How often do you feel as though you are battling with someone although you are both wanting the same outcome?
Without trust, we may feel and think one thing, but communicate something else. Hah!
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 13
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
The name of the habit explains this one. It starts with explaining the importance of listening, empathic listening. I love this book because it throws out all the past jargon of listening skills and exposes them in the reality of what it does. People can see right through it. Either you are genuinely listening or you're not.
This book can be useful in so many areas of life. Having relationship issues? Try empathic listening - it is a BIG deposit in the emotional bank account. It gives a person "psychological air". Covey compares it to the air we breath, if suddenly all the air was sucked out of the room, you would strive for nothing else but to get air - survival would be your only motivation.
Similarly, the greatest need (next to physical survival) of a human being is psychological survival - to be understood, to be affirmed, to be validated, to be appreciated. AFTER THAT VITAL NEED IS MET, YOU CAN THEN FOCUS ON PROBLEM SOLVING. When the bank account is healthy.
So true.
"This need for psychological air impacts communication in every area of life."
Are you listening??
The name of the habit explains this one. It starts with explaining the importance of listening, empathic listening. I love this book because it throws out all the past jargon of listening skills and exposes them in the reality of what it does. People can see right through it. Either you are genuinely listening or you're not.
This book can be useful in so many areas of life. Having relationship issues? Try empathic listening - it is a BIG deposit in the emotional bank account. It gives a person "psychological air". Covey compares it to the air we breath, if suddenly all the air was sucked out of the room, you would strive for nothing else but to get air - survival would be your only motivation.
Similarly, the greatest need (next to physical survival) of a human being is psychological survival - to be understood, to be affirmed, to be validated, to be appreciated. AFTER THAT VITAL NEED IS MET, YOU CAN THEN FOCUS ON PROBLEM SOLVING. When the bank account is healthy.
So true.
"This need for psychological air impacts communication in every area of life."
Are you listening??
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 12
Habit 4: Think Win/Win
Covey talks about 6 paradigms of human interaction:
There are so many sound concepts in this chapter; you have to read it to achieve the essence. Read it.
Covey talks about 6 paradigms of human interaction:
- Win/Win
- Win/Lose
- Lose/Win
- Lose/Lose
- Win
- Win/Win or No Deal
There are so many sound concepts in this chapter; you have to read it to achieve the essence. Read it.
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 11
Habit 4: Think Win/Win
I have entered into Interdependence! The seven habits move from dependence, which is about private victory, to independence, once you have mastered private victory, and arrives at interdependence, public victory.
This chapter, like all the chapters, covers many concepts, one of them being the Emotional Bank Account. This can apply to any type of relationship. It is an analogy to an actual bank account and considers deposits and withdrawals. There are six major deposits:
1. Understanding the individual
2. Attending to the LITTLE THINGS. I couldn't help myself in capitalizing this because I felt like it needed further emphasis for anyone who may be reading my blog.
3. Keeping commitments
4. Clarifying expectations
5. Showing personal integrity
6. Apologizing sincerely when you make a withdrawal
Oh the world would be such a happier place if we all did this.
I have entered into Interdependence! The seven habits move from dependence, which is about private victory, to independence, once you have mastered private victory, and arrives at interdependence, public victory.
This chapter, like all the chapters, covers many concepts, one of them being the Emotional Bank Account. This can apply to any type of relationship. It is an analogy to an actual bank account and considers deposits and withdrawals. There are six major deposits:
1. Understanding the individual
2. Attending to the LITTLE THINGS. I couldn't help myself in capitalizing this because I felt like it needed further emphasis for anyone who may be reading my blog.
3. Keeping commitments
4. Clarifying expectations
5. Showing personal integrity
6. Apologizing sincerely when you make a withdrawal
Oh the world would be such a happier place if we all did this.
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 10
Habit 3 - Put First Things First
To recap the habits thus far:
Habit 1: Identifying that you are in charge
Habit 2: Envisioning the potential
Habit 3: Actualization through independent will
Habit 3 is putting habit 1 & 2 into action! I have to define integrity here because so many say they value integrity. How does one value, offer or recognize integrity, if they don't practice it?
"Integrity is, fundamentally, the value we place on ourselves. It's our ability to make and keep commitments to ourselves. Honor to ourselves."
To take this one step further, integrity doesn't exist if the self hasn't been mastered.
Be a function of your values rather than a function of the impulse or desire of any given moment.
The chapters get detailed with graphic matrix examples and so on but Habit 3 is about being an effective time manager and discusses what we should focus our time on for it to serve us in the long run - 'important, non urgent" tasks. It talks about how to say no, delegation of tasks and provides a weekly schedule that allows one to live a principle centered, effective life based on values and goals. This takes discipline.
To recap the habits thus far:
Habit 1: Identifying that you are in charge
Habit 2: Envisioning the potential
Habit 3: Actualization through independent will
Habit 3 is putting habit 1 & 2 into action! I have to define integrity here because so many say they value integrity. How does one value, offer or recognize integrity, if they don't practice it?
"Integrity is, fundamentally, the value we place on ourselves. It's our ability to make and keep commitments to ourselves. Honor to ourselves."
To take this one step further, integrity doesn't exist if the self hasn't been mastered.
Be a function of your values rather than a function of the impulse or desire of any given moment.
The chapters get detailed with graphic matrix examples and so on but Habit 3 is about being an effective time manager and discusses what we should focus our time on for it to serve us in the long run - 'important, non urgent" tasks. It talks about how to say no, delegation of tasks and provides a weekly schedule that allows one to live a principle centered, effective life based on values and goals. This takes discipline.
Sunday, November 15, 2009
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 9
Habit 3 - Put First Things First
This concept like most of Covey's concepts are accurate. This is about managing our time efficiently; the principles of personal management. He offers a new fourth generation weekly planner that is principle centered and I am going to try it. It is a step beyond "to do" lists and daily schedulers. If I have peaked your interest at all in this book, he provides a sample template on page 180 of his creation of a weekly scheduler. Check it out! It may look intimidating but it has made a "quantum positive difference" in peoples lives. I'll let you know how my leap goes!
More on Habit 3 to come...
This concept like most of Covey's concepts are accurate. This is about managing our time efficiently; the principles of personal management. He offers a new fourth generation weekly planner that is principle centered and I am going to try it. It is a step beyond "to do" lists and daily schedulers. If I have peaked your interest at all in this book, he provides a sample template on page 180 of his creation of a weekly scheduler. Check it out! It may look intimidating but it has made a "quantum positive difference" in peoples lives. I'll let you know how my leap goes!
More on Habit 3 to come...
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 8
Habit 3 - Put First Things First
I would just like to quote a passage:
Many people seem to think that success in one area can compensate for failure in other areas of life. But can it really? Perhaps it can for a limited time in some areas. But can success in your profession compensate for a broken marriage, ruined health, or weakness in personal character? True effectiveness requires balance, and your tool needs to help you create and maintain it.
I would just like to quote a passage:
Many people seem to think that success in one area can compensate for failure in other areas of life. But can it really? Perhaps it can for a limited time in some areas. But can success in your profession compensate for a broken marriage, ruined health, or weakness in personal character? True effectiveness requires balance, and your tool needs to help you create and maintain it.
Saturday, November 14, 2009
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 7
Habit 2 - Begin with the End in Mind
Covey talks about writing and abiding by mission statements. Mission statements can apply to your personal life, your family or an organization. The important thing is if the mission statement applies to more than one person that each and everyone has input in creating the mission statement, if not:
"When people become more mature and their own lives take on a separate meaning, they want involvement, significant involvement. And if they don't have that involvement, they don't buy it. Then you have a significant motivational problem which cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created it."
I just say - the people call your bluff! You who are directing, do you abide by correct principles or those that the mission statement is based on? Why would you expect your staff to?
Here is an excerpt from a sample mission statement. This mission statement used life roles and goals as a guide.
"My mission is to live with integrity and to make a difference in the lives of others.
To fulfill this mission:
I am impactful: What I do makes a difference in the lives of others....
...These roles take priority in achieving my mission:
Husband: my partner is the most important person in my life. Together we contribute the fruits of harmony, industry, charity, and thrift..."
Your mission statement will be reviewed regularly and perhaps minor changes made as you have insights or changing circumstances over the years; however:
Fundamentally, your mission statement becomes your constitution, the solid expression of your vision and values. It becomes the criterion by which you measure everything else in your life.
Covey talks about writing and abiding by mission statements. Mission statements can apply to your personal life, your family or an organization. The important thing is if the mission statement applies to more than one person that each and everyone has input in creating the mission statement, if not:
"When people become more mature and their own lives take on a separate meaning, they want involvement, significant involvement. And if they don't have that involvement, they don't buy it. Then you have a significant motivational problem which cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created it."
I just say - the people call your bluff! You who are directing, do you abide by correct principles or those that the mission statement is based on? Why would you expect your staff to?
Here is an excerpt from a sample mission statement. This mission statement used life roles and goals as a guide.
"My mission is to live with integrity and to make a difference in the lives of others.
To fulfill this mission:
I am impactful: What I do makes a difference in the lives of others....
...These roles take priority in achieving my mission:
Husband: my partner is the most important person in my life. Together we contribute the fruits of harmony, industry, charity, and thrift..."
Your mission statement will be reviewed regularly and perhaps minor changes made as you have insights or changing circumstances over the years; however:
Fundamentally, your mission statement becomes your constitution, the solid expression of your vision and values. It becomes the criterion by which you measure everything else in your life.
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 6
Habit 2 - Begin with the End in Mind
We all need some frame of reference to base our decisions on. If nothing else, then why not consider the end of your life? How do you see that? What are your accomplishments?
Are the things you are doing today and tomorrow contributing to that end goal?
We all need some frame of reference to base our decisions on. If nothing else, then why not consider the end of your life? How do you see that? What are your accomplishments?
Are the things you are doing today and tomorrow contributing to that end goal?
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 5
Habit 1 - Be Proactive
Where do we focus our time and energy?
We have a Circle of Influence (things we can do something about) and a Circle of Concern (out of our control).
Do you know someone like this:
"Their focus results in blaming and accusing attitudes, reactive language, and increased feelings of victimization. The negative energy generated by that focus, combined with neglect in areas they could do something about, causes their Circle of Influence to shrink."
This is a reactive person who focuses in the Circle of Concern.
Where do we focus our time and energy?
We have a Circle of Influence (things we can do something about) and a Circle of Concern (out of our control).
Do you know someone like this:
"Their focus results in blaming and accusing attitudes, reactive language, and increased feelings of victimization. The negative energy generated by that focus, combined with neglect in areas they could do something about, causes their Circle of Influence to shrink."
This is a reactive person who focuses in the Circle of Concern.
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 4
Here's a concept:
1. The P/PC Balance
The P stands for Production of desired results and PC stands for production capability,the ability or asset that produces. The jist of this is that if you neglect the PC, the P will falter and eventually fail. For example, if I want a well maintained home (P), I need to clean my house regularly (PC). I think we all get this but why don't we all do it?
1. The P/PC Balance
The P stands for Production of desired results and PC stands for production capability,the ability or asset that produces. The jist of this is that if you neglect the PC, the P will falter and eventually fail. For example, if I want a well maintained home (P), I need to clean my house regularly (PC). I think we all get this but why don't we all do it?
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 3
Habit 1 - Be Proactive
The concepts in this book aren't new. Most of us have heard them before. This book is for those who are really willing to put in the hard work to develop a strong foundation of principles to govern their life. Who continues through life driven by their feelings? You are then called a reactive person. Does your life feel out of control?
The proactive model is the idea that we have the freedom to choose our response once the stimulus has hit. Freedom to choose through self-awareness, imagination, conscience and independent will. Doesn't just the sound of this make you feel strong?
I will echo Covey in his definition of Proactivity. It is more than taking initiative. It means:
The concepts in this book aren't new. Most of us have heard them before. This book is for those who are really willing to put in the hard work to develop a strong foundation of principles to govern their life. Who continues through life driven by their feelings? You are then called a reactive person. Does your life feel out of control?
The proactive model is the idea that we have the freedom to choose our response once the stimulus has hit. Freedom to choose through self-awareness, imagination, conscience and independent will. Doesn't just the sound of this make you feel strong?
I will echo Covey in his definition of Proactivity. It is more than taking initiative. It means:
- we are responsible for our own lives
- our behavior is a function our our decisions not our conditions
- we can subordinate feelings to values
WE HAVE THE INITIATIVE AND RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
the 7 habits of highly effective people - part 2
I would never have read this book were it not for a large cardboard box full of books that my sister was throwing away. this one just happened to be in it and I thought I would give it a chance.
The first chapter is called 'inside out" and it has touched on some topics that I agree with. The author, Covey, explains two trends he identified amongst success literature over the past 200 years. Personality Ethics and Character Ethics. Character Ethics refers to the basic principles of effective living such as integrity and fidelity. It states that people can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and integrate these principles into their basic character. This encompassed 150 years of the 200 years of success literature that Covey studied. The last 50 years developed into Personality Ethics, he refers to it as being on a more superficial level. Success became more a function of personality, of public image, of attitudes and behaviors. Take this passage for example:
The first chapter is called 'inside out" and it has touched on some topics that I agree with. The author, Covey, explains two trends he identified amongst success literature over the past 200 years. Personality Ethics and Character Ethics. Character Ethics refers to the basic principles of effective living such as integrity and fidelity. It states that people can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and integrate these principles into their basic character. This encompassed 150 years of the 200 years of success literature that Covey studied. The last 50 years developed into Personality Ethics, he refers to it as being on a more superficial level. Success became more a function of personality, of public image, of attitudes and behaviors. Take this passage for example:
If I try to use human influence strategies and tactics of how to get other people to do what I want, to work better, to be more motivated, to like me and each other - while my character is fundamentally flawed, marked by duplicity and insincerity - then, in the long run, I cannot be successful. My duplicity will breed distrust, and everything I do - even using so-called good human relations techniques - will be perceived as manipulative. It simply makes no difference how good the intentions are; if there is little or no trust, there is no foundation for permanent success. Only basic goodness gives life to technique.Do we all grasp the essence of this passage.
the 7 habits of highly effective people
I like this book already and I am only in the foreward. Here are some quotes to start us off:
I am the creative force in my life.
Balance and peace of mind follow the person who develops a clear sense of his or her highest priorities and who lives with focus and integrity toward them.
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